This is the kitchen where we talk about food, life, and recovery—a spiritual path to healing and peace.

You are invited to keep coming back to A Cup of Kindness to share your experience, strength and hope; fears, doubts and insecurities; and to pick up information, inspiration … and have a little fun!

My story
In January 2007, at the age of 51, I joined a 12-step program and began my recovery from food addiction, losing 75 pounds in the process. Read more…

In January 2011, at the age of 55, I began my recovery from a multi-trauma accident, 36 fractures, damaged lungs, and post traumatic stress. Read more…

I am deeply grateful for all the kindnesses, large and small, offered to me in recovery. Here I am... alive… still making progress … still not perfect … finding a new way forward in a growing community of women and men who share a lot in common around food and life.

I hope you'll join me in this kitchen and let me know what's cooking with you.

A Cup of Kindness

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Category Archives: Gratitude

Just a frog

Flour + sugar + quantities + alcohol = very bad boyfriend. Always expecting love and happiness and instead feeling like an idiot over and over again. It wasn’t love. It was infatuation and intoxication with a side of remorse and weight gain. It’s hard to quit a cute guy, but this prince is really just […]

Just for today

Just for today I will happily agree to being comfortable with being somewhat uncomfortable. And I’ll know that my resilience is growing stronger. Love & Light, Valerie

Pieces of my heart

I want to keep growing and becoming a happier more loving person.

Radical Consistency

I received a message during Quaker Meeting for Worship today. About 20 minutes into the Meeting, a door opened and someone walked in late and, in my mind, I heard “Radical consistency.” I sat with that phrase for another 10 minutes and then thought, “That’s what I’m moving towards.” It’s not about white knuckling. It’s […]