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In January 2007, at the age of 51, I joined a 12-step program and began my recovery from food addiction, losing 75 pounds in the process. Read more…

In January 2011, at the age of 55, I began my recovery from a multi-trauma accident, 36 fractures, damaged lungs, and post traumatic stress. Read more…

I am deeply grateful for all the kindnesses, large and small, offered to me in recovery. Here I am... alive… still making progress … still not perfect … finding a new way forward in a growing community of women and men who share a lot in common around food and life.

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Loose Goose

3 geese walking


Day 8 of Continuing Recovery

Oh boy. Yesterday my thinking got loose. Luuuuucy!

The first thought that set me off wandering was, I’m running late so I’ll read the 24 Hours a Day book and do my Quiet Time in the evening. Then, it’s OK to be late to my 12-step meeting. It progressed to, I’ll have cream in my coffee and it won’t count. Then, we should take our neighbor out to dinner since she has returned from a trip. Later, my apple is too small so I’ll have a little more of something else to account for the missing calories and fiber. Finally, I got in bed and spent too much time thinking about my thighs… and not in a good way.

It’s confirmed. This food addict must stop thinking and just do.

So, this morning I walked the dog, made coffee, knelt, prayed, read the 24 Hours a Day book, and did 30 minutes of Quiet Time. I didn’t empty the dishwasher. I didn’t get up to check the calendar. I had decided to sit for 30 minutes no matter what and I just did it.

I committed my food to my sponsor. That’s what I’ll eat today no matter what. I’ll be kind to myself as my sponsor suggests. And I’ll call our neighbor to welcome her home and find something fun for us to do together.

What a relief. I can live life rather than obsessing about the food… or anything else. I can just turn it all over to a Higher Power.

This is Recovery. I’m grateful for it.

Love & Light,


8 Comments to Loose Goose

  1. September 24, 2012 at 8:05 am | Permalink

    good humor Valerie-memorable picture, too

  2. Sandra's Gravatar Sandra
    September 24, 2012 at 8:26 am | Permalink

    Thank you Valerie for the image of this loose goose. I recognize her, for she comes to visit me at times. I also thank my sponsor, who teaches me ways to shoo this loose goose away — kindness and discipline for myself and others.

    Congratulations on Day 8 and may you have a happy and peaceful Day 9. 🙂

  3. Melinda's Gravatar Melinda
    September 24, 2012 at 2:13 pm | Permalink

    Lovely Valerie! Congratulations!

  4. Janice Hill's Gravatar Janice Hill
    September 26, 2012 at 10:00 am | Permalink

    My special friend…Your journey helps to calibrate my day. The images amazing. Spiritual discipline, proper eating (I eat well but not regularly), exercise and consistency have been my two biggest challenges. In short, taking care of myself. My excuse now is preparation for the move. Everything is topsy turvy but you and your wise, funny and insightful thoughts calm the water as I begin each morning. Thank you for your profound sharing.

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