This is the kitchen where we talk about food, life, and recovery—a spiritual path to healing and peace.

You are invited to keep coming back to A Cup of Kindness to share your experience, strength and hope; fears, doubts and insecurities; and to pick up information, inspiration … and have a little fun!

My story
In January 2007, at the age of 51, I joined a 12-step program and began my recovery from food addiction, losing 75 pounds in the process. Read more…

In January 2011, at the age of 55, I began my recovery from a multi-trauma accident, 36 fractures, damaged lungs, and post traumatic stress. Read more…

I am deeply grateful for all the kindnesses, large and small, offered to me in recovery. Here I am... alive… still making progress … still not perfect … finding a new way forward in a growing community of women and men who share a lot in common around food and life.

I hope you'll join me in this kitchen and let me know what's cooking with you.

A Cup of Kindness

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What am I ready for?

Photo credit: Yoga for Creaky Bodies

My friend Debby asks, “What are you ready for?”

I answer delicately. I am ready to turn towards what I resist with compassionate curiosity. I am ready to embrace what I resist.

I am ready to write about it. To ask myself more about it. To find out what’s going on underneath. To see the big picture.

After all, having gotten through the last year, I can certainly do the hard thing… get back to continuous abstinence from flour and sugar… one day at a time… using the spiritual tools of my 12-step program.

Debby says, “I’m going to get tough here. I’m asking what you are ready for; not what you are ready to do.”


Time to go to bed.


Love & Light,


6 Comments to What am I ready for?

  1. Myra Tate's Gravatar Myra Tate
    March 12, 2012 at 9:15 am | Permalink

    You’ve got a very cute poem there. mom

  2. March 12, 2012 at 11:31 am | Permalink

    Dear Valerie,

    I have really been enjoying your Facebook postings, and your desire to persue what
    you resist-with compassion.
    Amy and I send you all our love and best wishes, and thought you may be interested
    in reading about our teacher, Prem Rawat.
    His website is http://www.tprf.org.
    –In peace,
    Chris and Amy de Boinville

  3. Sandra's Gravatar Sandra
    March 13, 2012 at 3:49 am | Permalink

    Dear Valerie,
    I’ve been following your site for several months. I keep coming back to taste the kindness. I’ve been inspired by the gentle, open-hearted inquiry in your posts. This one motivated to emerge from “lurking” status and join the conversation. What are you ready for? Good question. My answer – more kindness, more compassion, more caring and service to others.
    Sandra Michaels

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