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In January 2007, at the age of 51, I joined a 12-step program and began my recovery from food addiction, losing 75 pounds in the process. Read more…

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Open Heart Project


Part Two – Profound Protection of the Heart


Here is my sister Louise’s response to Profound Protection of the Heart. I keep coming back to read it again and again. There’s a powerful leading here.

Profound protection of the heart….

It’s what I wanted to give you in Miami when you were so badly hurt – what I wanted to give Mom and Murray and the kids – what I hoped for Gregory. And it is what I wished I could give myself, too, then. But I felt like all the layers were peeled back and what was left was raw and exposed – that there was no protection – no safety zone.

I guess that being in love means that the very love that is so important to our being – so magical and all-encompassing  – also leaves you vulnerable to great pain. Love isn’t safe. It’s dangerous.

But then that one night in Miami when I thought I was losing my mind with grief and pain and fear, I allowed – or maybe forced – myself to imagine a life without you. I realized that even though it felt like we had no protection, it was the love that we had for each other that would get us through. It was the love we had for you – whether you survived or not – that would help us get through. So…it was there after all.

A profound protection of the heart.

7 Comments to Part Two – Profound Protection of the Heart

  1. Leslie's Gravatar Leslie
    February 15, 2012 at 3:32 pm | Permalink

    I got such a visceral response from this message. So beautifully written. So simple yet so complex. Thank you.

  2. Myra Tate's Gravatar Myra Tate
    February 15, 2012 at 3:57 pm | Permalink

    amen, dearest daughters – I am forever, forever, grateful that Louise and Gregory were with you when your need was so great. mom

  3. Irene Devin's Gravatar Irene Devin
    February 16, 2012 at 7:36 pm | Permalink

    I agree – very simple yet profound. An absolutely lovely sentiment.

    Love is worth it!


  4. Margarita Plasencia's Gravatar Margarita Plasencia
    February 17, 2012 at 7:54 pm | Permalink

    Thank you for sharing Valerie. I also loved reading Louise’s response, so inspiring! It is so hard to see beyond when we are in pain, but love and faith is all we need.

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