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In January 2007, at the age of 51, I joined a 12-step program and began my recovery from food addiction, losing 75 pounds in the process. Read more…

In January 2011, at the age of 55, I began my recovery from a multi-trauma accident, 36 fractures, damaged lungs, and post traumatic stress. Read more…

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Tall order. Simple decision.


I’m getting married to the man I love on Saturday!

This is a fascinating time. My attention has moved from planning the event, to preparing for a spiritual experience.

I want to be open to receive Love, Light and Friendship.

I want to be present and protected in the midst of lots of people and the potential for a few dramas.

I want clarity. I want to feel good about myself. I want confidence that I am a person of integrity and honesty. I want to feel connected to Creator Universe and Creatress Mother Earth.

Tall order.

There’s one path that’s most likely to fill me with what I need. The path of freedom from addiction.

My decision is to abstain from all flour and sugar; and I know from experience that I will have more awareness. I will be more present for myself, to Gregory and others. I will feel the Joy.

Life will continue to happen. I was abstinent when a drunk driver ran into and over me. I don’t think of abstinence as a magic cloak against bad things happening. I think of it as the medicine of hope and strength.

So, when Gregory and I cut the cake and feed each other something sweet, I will have a delicious strawberry and I will be grateful beyond measure.

Love & Light,


10 Comments to Tall order. Simple decision.

  1. Francesca's Gravatar Francesca
    May 16, 2012 at 10:43 am | Permalink

    This is a lovely entry. I so wish I could be with you on your wedding day. I will join you in spirit from the Chalice Well, the most spiritual place in all of Glastonbury. It’s the location where the veil is thinnest between the seen and unseen worlds. Many hold their hand fasting ceremonies here. What better spot to celebrate with you from afar! I will send you and Gregory a blessing and join you in a symbolic bite of the strawberry. Only here in Glastonbury it’s the apple that’s the magical fruit of the Isle of Avalon.
    Much love,

  2. Betsy Marville's Gravatar Betsy Marville
    May 16, 2012 at 5:14 pm | Permalink

    Have a beautiful and fun wedding Valerie. You deserve the best. Enjoy!

  3. Roberta Brenner's Gravatar Roberta Brenner
    May 16, 2012 at 6:57 pm | Permalink

    Hi Valerie,
    What a beautiful post! That will be the sweetest strawberry ever! Ira and I will miss sharing this wonderful event with you and will be thinking of you and sending you Gregory and the family lots of love. We look forward to seeing the pictures and hopefully having a visit soon.
    Roberta and Ira

  4. Rachel Stein's Gravatar Rachel Stein
    May 17, 2012 at 3:18 pm | Permalink


    All my warmest wishes to you and Gregory as you begin this wonderous chapter of your lives! Only the best for you!!! All my love, Rachel

  5. Melinda's Gravatar Melinda
    May 18, 2012 at 2:46 pm | Permalink

    What a lovely entry ~ I’m sure your special day will be perfect.

    As I read that you will be eating a strawberry in lieu of cake, I was inspired to check out the spiritual meaning of strawberry. One site (http://www.tokenz.com/meaning-of-flowers.html) said “Perfect goodness”, another had the following: Strawberries have special meaning to the Seneca of the northeastern United States. Because strawberries are the first fruit of the year to ripen, they are associated with spring and rebirth. The Seneca also say that strawberries grow along the path to the heavens and that they can bring good health.

    What a perfect addition to your ceremony and celebration!

    See you tomorrow!!!

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